The other day I greeted a friend with a hug and
mentioned that the texture of her sweater was great, nice and soft. Instead of simply
saying “yeah, I think so too”, she said “oh I bought at (forget now the name of
the store) only paid 30 reais.
It struck me as to why women usually can’t take
a simple complement. When someone says something nice about what you are
wearing, the answer is usually “oh it is so old” or “Just something I had in the
closet” or even “it was a gift from so and so”. Mind you that I have caught
myself doing this too and it really bothers me to the point that I feel stupid
afterwards.
Is it because we grow up having to justify
everything we do, think, say or wear? From the time we start to talk until we
die, we usually inform people of the reason why we do this and that also why we
went there, why we said what we said, etc.
Or is it perhaps that we are not used to the
fact that it is ok to take a compliment? After all, it is good for our health and
mental sanity. It helps keep our
self-esteem up. These days self-esteem is something that usually hits rock
bottom at times due to the pressure of the media and society.
Of course no one goes around telling people
that they look awful or that their clothes are horrible. Come to think of it, I
do know some people who get a kick out of making other people miserable. I
guess it is because it helps them feel better.
So, I question the simple fact of why not just
say thank you when someone compliments you and move on. I will give it a try.( May 24, 2012)
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