Nowadays a lot of things my
grandmother used to say has been making a lot of sense. What I did not
understand back then in the 70´s, but now in 2016, or better at 49 almost 50,
it is all starting to make sense.
For instance she used to say things
like “A small lie will betray itself in the long run”, “Once you have told a
lie, you will need a good memory”, “A lie never lives to be old”; and of course
she would always remind me of “The Boy Who Cried Wolf”. (It is a good fable if
you haven´t read it. I know for a fact that there are videos available on-line
which tell the tale).
Perhaps you disagree with me on the
fact that there are some situations in which telling a white lie is much better. For example, some one sends you a text
message and you say that you didn´t get it. Eventually the person got it but
didn´t bother to read it or answer it. Therefore, saying you didn´t get it is
much easier than just saying that you didn´t feel like answering it.
Another example is when someone
invites you out and you say that you can´t make it because you already have
something else scheduled, but in reality
you just don´t want to go. In the long run, the person will just get tired of
asking you out. Wouldn´t it just save time and all the energy if you had told
the truth right off the bat?
The truth can hurt. But finding out
that someone lied to you can cause even more hurt. For instance, you had made
plans to meet a friend at a pub and he never shows up, nor does he send a
message stating that he couldn´t make it. Then when you meet up with him again
he says one of his relatives passed away. You feel horrible because you were
mad at him because he left you standing and then you find out he had lost a
loved one. However, a couple of years go by and you see a picture of him and
the deceased relative on a social media page, and the relative is alive and
kicking. Do you confront him? Nah, you
just start losing the trust you had in the person. Then you hear that
children´s saying in your head “Liar, liar pants on fire.”
There are some lies that you catch
quite quickly and then there are others that take years for you to find out. It
does not matter, the truth always prevails. This is something that I have
learned throughout the years.
As Abraham Lincoln once said : “You
can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the
time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time.”
Telling
the truth is hard and may hurt, but at least you will sleep better and do not
need to worry in case your memory goes bad.
Written: March 3, 2016
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