Often when we
are in a relationship we tend to believe that what we get in exchange is the
truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth. In the beginning of the
relationship, perhaps this is what happens. After all you are in love and tend
to see no faults in the loved one. Cloud nine is a pretty awesome place to be
on. But what about the cases in which the flame dies out and the only thing
left to do is end the relationship? What to do then? How to let the other
person know that you do not love them any longer?
Some couples
are mature enough to sit down and both want to end the relationship in a
civilized way. Although they may be heartbroken, they manage to put an end to
their relationship status and still remain friends. They have closure which
helps them move on in life.
On the other
hand there are those situations in which one person is still hanging on to that
last thread and hoping that the flame will reignite as simple as lighting a
match. In this case sitting down to discuss the relationship is hard and most
of the times impossible.
Telling the
other person that the flame has died out may be impossible for a number of reasons:
·
The person is not brave enough to let
out the words and say it is over; or
· - too immature to realize that closure
is necessary; or
· - already has replaced the old flame
with a new flame and is embarrassed to admit it; or
· - can´t handle seeing the other person
crying or begging to stay together while talking about breaking up; or
· - likes to hold on to someone just in case
they are on a rebound and doesn´t want to be alone; or
· - simply doesn´t think that closure is
important.
Breaking up
is hard to do, so the saying and song go, but closure is important. As much as
it hurts, it is only fair to tell the other person that you do not love them
any longer and that your future plans or intentions do not include him or her.
Nobody has to
be with the same person forever. You should be with someone who wants to be
with you and you want to be with not just because they feel sorry for you or
because he or she is waiting for someone better to come around and doesn´t want
to be alone in the meantime.
So take a
deep breath and either make it work out or let the other person go.
Written:
August 11, 2016
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