Tell People You Care and Appreciate Them While They Are Still Among Us

This morning I woke up a bit gloomy for yesterday a brilliant man I knew passed away. In reality, he took his life. The melancholy was not because he had died, he will be missed of course, but more for the fact that after everyone had heard of his passing, people kept posting messages to him on his social media. The messages were directed to him. As I read the messages, it saddened me a lot. I started wondering why these people had not said these beautiful words of praise and appreciation to him while he was still among us. Now, it seems like it is a bit too late. He probably cannot access his IG or FB from wherever he may be.

Grief is painful, trust me, I now for a fact. I get that for some people leaving those messages is a way to relieve the sorrow that they are feeling at that moment. It is also a way for the family to realize what a great loss. Most of those people do not know that he decided the end of his journey on Earth on his own. I am not here to judge. I realize that life is a burden at times and people need to deal with their demons. Some are lucky enough to win the battle against their sadness while others take measures into their own hands. Perhaps suicide is something that should be talked about and discussed more than it is. It seems like if you talk about it, you will eventually get ideas and go through with it or if you bring up the subject, you are quickly told to change it.  I believe that the more you talk about it, the more you give people who are in need of help a chance to open up and get the assistance they need to overcome the storm, it is beneficial. Thinking about him, he always had a smile on his face and was more than ready to help others. His sadness was hiding behind that broad smile. Wouldn´t it be great if when we asked someone how they were, they could really tell us the truth? In addition to that, wouldn´t it be wonderful if we truly listened?

 Nowadays there is excessive pressure on us to be happy, be positive and smile. I am not an expert on the subject matter and choose to smile when I really want to breakdown and cry. Nonetheless, I do breakdown at times and do not give a hoot who is around. Feelings are made to be felt. You can smile if you feel like it. You can frown if you feel like it. You can laugh and you can cry. But, please, seek help when you are in need. Everything passes. When you are in a dark place, sooner or later the light will shine. However, if you need a helping hand, grab one.

Life is beautiful. Even in the darkest or hardest days there is always something to be grateful for. Let´s be there for people. Let´s take care of people.  And, please, tell people they are loved and appreciated while they are still alive.  

 

Written: July 22, 2020

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