You Should Stop Complaining So Much

Funny how people say things off the top of their heads. The other day a friend asked me how my weekend was. I was pretty straight forward and answered that I had had another bone marrow spell and ended spending Friday and Saturday in bed, but thank God that on Sunday I was able to get up and meet the family for lunch.

Out of the blue she asked me if I had ever heard of …( I really don´t recall the guy´s name) who was a pretty active guy and then he had some kind of accident and was only able to communicate by blinking. My friend also added that he had even written a book by blinking each letter. What came out of my friend's mouth next stung me like a bee. She said, “You know, I think you should read his book so that you will stop complaining so much.”

Once again I had to take hold of the bitch that lives inside me. I took a deep breath, looked her in the eyes and said “I am sorry if you did not like what I said, but I was just answering your question. If you did not want an answer, you shouldn´t have asked. Besides, I do not complain all the time although in my opinion I have the right to. I feel pain 24/7 and you do not hear me complaining about it. By law I can retire and stay home taking morphine to ease my pain, that´s just how bad it is. But I am a well-mannered person and when someone asks me a question I tend to answer it.” I left her with her jaw hanging.

Come to think of it now. I did not do such a good job in controlling the bitch that lives in me. But hey, I am only human. You should not judge people until you have walked in their shoes. I do realize that perhaps she was going through her own rough time. Nonetheless, I have nothing to do with that and I have my own battle to fight but I do not go off just throwing things up in people´s faces. Lucky for me there was a third person in the room who later on turned to me and said “She´s going through a rough time. Cut her some slack.” Once again, I have to forgive and forget.

I try real hard to forgive and forget. Most of the times I manage to do so. However, sometimes it is easier to forgive than to forget. Since then when anyone asks me how I am, I simply answer: fine, just fine.

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(Written February 27, 2013)
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